What My Mum Said…

If you’ve seen me speak, there are several phrases that I use all of the time. One is that “life teaches us what we need to know but we ignore it all of the time”. In my case, as in many of yours I am sure, this started young. My mum used to give great advice, I just did not pay much attention to it. Here are just a few…

  • You get out what you put in.
  • All you can do is your best. Whatever the result, if you’ve done your best, than that’s great.
  • It’s not the results that count, it is the effort that matters.
  • I don’t care what anyone else does/thinks/behaves; I care about you and your behaviour.
  • Spend less than you earn.
  • Count the pennies and the pounds will look after themselves.
  • Sticks and stones will break your bones but words will never hurt me.
  • Be polite. Be honest. Care. That’s all anyone can ask.
  • Everything in moderation (usually on food).
  • Just because you perceived someone angered/slighted/ annoyed you does not mean that you have to get annoyed. You can choose your own response.
  • You can go back to school, go to a (less well known university) or get a job but the one thing you are not doing is sitting around here feeling sorry for yourself.
  • Don’t worry about what others think. Decide what you want and live your life.
  • I choose to be happy. I don’t let petty things bother me. That is your choice.
  • Treat others like you want to be treated yourself.
  • Manners are free.
  • Manners maketh man (and that’s a human race man, not a solely male one).
  • To get respect, you need to earn respect.
  • Nobody will value you or what you do if you don’t value yourself.
  • If you want something, you are going to have to work for it.

It’s interesting when I look at these to see how they have shaped me, even though, at the time, I barely noticed them being said.

Probably the three that really shaped me are…

  1. You get out what you put in.
  2. I choose to be happy.
  3. If you want something, you are going to have to work for it.

My ‘I am 10’ principle is about choice (number 2). It is about choosing to be the best that you can be. It is about choosing to give your best (number 1). Thousands of people and hundreds of companies have changed their lives, purely through deciding that they want to be more and achieve more. And to achieve more, you have to do more (number 3). Hoping, praying and wishing for something to happen is pointless if it is not attached to massive, focused action.

So, I guess I have my mum to thank for the genesis of ‘I am 10’ . She has always said that she thinks my job sounds fab!

What did your parents say to you when you were younger? What sticks with you? What has shaped your life positively to this day? And if the answer is “nothing”, maybe now is the time to choose to let it go and adopt some of your own sayings that support you and motivate you to be who you want to be and to achieve more of what you want in your business and your life.

If you want to talk to me about how I can help you set your next conference alight – inspiring your people, guaranteeing you a great event and giving your people messages and strategies that they will be talking about long after your event is over – then give me a call on 0845 838 5958 or get in contact to see how my ‘I am 10′ principles can help your teams and your organisation be world class.

Have a great day and be a ’10’.

About the author: Gavin Ingham
Gavin Ingham is a speaker and author on mental toughness and will help you to Be More, Do More & Have More in your business and in your life. For all of the latest news, podcasts, videos, tips and strategies join his newsletter. Sign up to the newsletter